A Home
for Strangers
My
husband and I spent the day yesterday helping to build a home for strangers.
Ever
since I learned about Jimmy and Rosalynn Carter’s work with Habitat for
Humanity, I’ve been intrigued by the organization and wanted to volunteer with
it, but somehow I never did.
Jimmy and Rosalynn Carter working at a Habitat site in India. Photo from Habitat for Humanity website.
My
husband’s company provides their employees with “service days,” on which they’re
given a day's leave with pay to spend working in the community. He and several
of his coworkers decided to work with Habitat for a day, and I, being
self-employed and not needing anyone’s permission to take a day off, decided to
go with him.
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Unfortunately
it was a cool, damp day when we arrived at the house at 8:30. Fortunately, we
were scheduled to work inside. The frame of the house was complete and the
outside walls all up, so we were protected from the elements, though it was a
bit chilly inside. We all signed in (necessary for insurance purposes, we were
told), and the volunteer supervisor split us up for different duties. Two women
began putting up insulation, and my husband and I followed them, using tape to
seal it to the studs and installing some of it ourselves. Others went to the
second floor to nail up drywall, and two more of his coworkers used a circular
saw to work on fitting a frame into a doorway.
After
we finished with the insulation, the coordinator asked me and my husband to take utility
knives and cut away large globs of insulating foam from the windows and wall
joins so that drywall could be installed flush against the walls. “I know it’s
a boring job,” he said, “but it has to be done.” That was all I needed to hear. I
started going at the pieces of white and yellow foam with my knife. I began to
get into a rhythm. It was a good job for an introvert--just me and my knife,
close work to concentrate on, no need to try to make conversation with
covolunteers or to return over and over to the coordinator to ask for something
else to do. When I finished one section I just moved to another.
We
broke for lunch, eating our home-packed sandwiches in the car. After lunch my
husband headed upstairs to help with the drywall. I returned to my task,
roaming the first floor with my knife, slicing around windows, on the edge of
the ceiling, at corners where boards joined. I began to enjoy the repetitive
rhythm. I heard footfalls and power tools upstairs, and the smell of wood and
sawdust reminded me that I love the smell of wood and sawdust.
And
as I moved through the not-yet-rooms, I tried to imagine what they might look
like when the house was finished and the family moved in. The section in the
back would be the kitchen. Where will the cabinets and counter go, the stove,
the refrigerator? It looked big enough to be an eat-in; where will they put
their table and chairs?
The
house will be cute, I think; small but comfortable. The living room has several
windows, and there’s a small enclosed foyer inside the front door with what looks
to be a coat closet at the far end. The foyer should help keep some of the cold
out in winter and also adds a little touch of elegance. I think there’s also
going to be a lavette between the kitchen and the foyer; to my mind that’s a
necessity. If you have more than one person living in a home, you need more
than one bathroom--especially if one or more persons are female.
There
are four bedrooms upstairs. I start picturing this as a family with three
children, and I imagine the parents happily allowing the oldest one to choose
the bedroom he or she wants. I imagine it’s a girl and that she’ll pick one
overlooking the small backyard. Then the next oldest will pick. I remember how,
when my family moved, I was allowed to choose my bedroom first as I was older
than my brother. I try to picture where they will put their beds: facing the
door? Looking out the window? What else will they have? Dressers, desks? What
color will the walls be painted?
I
don’t know anything about the strangers who will call this house their home.
Yet in an odd way I don’t think that we’re doing this work for people we’ll
never meet. Imagining them moving in, furnishing the house, putting away their
belongings, makes me feel as though I know them. I feel like I want to visit
them when they’re settled in and see how they fit into the house and how the
house fits them.
And
I feel like I’m discovering a bit of a stranger in myself—the part of me that
really enjoys doing things to help people I don’t know: making prayer shawls,
donating time and money to Alzheimer’s research, or working to help build
houses. For one who has always been somewhat of a loner and a little afraid of
meeting people, it’s been a great way for me to contribute something of value
to the world. So I welcome my own stranger, and I look forward to getting to
know her better.
What a quiet, yet joy filled day Elaine. My parents worked on a Habitt house or two in florida and she also spoke of how rewarding it was and even imagined the house as you did as she worked there. I too. would have loved the solitary job you got that allowed me to be a part of the whole, without being actually involved. I can make conversation when I have to, but enjoy my solitude just as much. So insightful to flesh out the stranger within yourself taht you are getting to know through your charitable works. A lovely wrap up to a heart warming piece.
ReplyDeleteI think you will like her just fine. It seems to me she is a wonderfully warm and giving soul and I have grown to care a lot about her and hers.
ReplyDeleteGood for you, Elaine. ♥
Thank you so much, Jo! The same back at you!
DeleteWhat a great experience! You really are such a good egg. :O)
ReplyDeleteThanks, Beth. It is a great experience.
DeleteInteresting post. We have a habitat home in the neighborhood. It is a cozy little house. The family living there now has made it even more homey by planting flowers and rose bushes and a swing set in the back yard.
ReplyDeleteSounds like found a rewarding and satisfying project to participate in.
Thanks for this comment, Lynda. It's great to hear how a family has taken such care to make the home their own and to contribute to the beauty of the neighborhood. It sounds like you don't have a NIMBY problem in your neighborhood, and that's great. The volunteer coordinator told us that the RI Habitat has built more than 70 houses and they've had only two foreclosures. It just shows that people only need to be given a chance to make it. Thanks for reading!
DeleteThanks, Claudia. It is a wonderful, and successful, program.
ReplyDeleteI once got my hands dirty with a project similar to this. I didn't build a house but I painted one. It took all day and was kind of rewarding.
ReplyDeleteThat's great, Michael. It is rewarding. Thanks for reading and commenting.
DeleteI was once a metal bender for Habitat for Humanity. It was a lot of fun.
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What's a metal bender, Joyce? Sounds like you need to be strong for that!
DeleteGood for you, helping others in whatever way we can is always admirable. I'm a Carter fan, and it's good to know they're still supporting Habitat.
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Hi, D.G. Thank you for visiting. I did visit your "21st Century Women" blog--beautiful pictures. I'll be back. I was also glad to know that the Carters are still doing good things. Thanks for your comment.
DeleteWonderful post. We have a strong Habitat for Humanity group in Lake Charles, LA but I recently heard there have been a lot of thefts and break-ins surrounding their work and even the finished homes.
ReplyDeleteI worked once with a Christmas In April bunch through my church. We helped home-owners make improvements to their homes: painting, cleaning, replacing rotting areas, etc -- all kinds of things. It was fun but hard work. I wear my Christmas in April tees with pride. :)
Hi Jess. I've heard of Christmas in April--isn't that where you help elderly people with home upkeep and repairs? I think that's a wonderful things to do, too. I'm glad to meet you, and thanks for stopping by and commenting!
DeleteThat is so awesome! Bless you and your husband for volunteering for such a worthy cause.
ReplyDeletewhat a wonderful project--i hope the happy family will have many wonderful years in this love built home---just saying hi from the az challenge:)
ReplyDeleteWhat a wonderful thing to vounteer for.
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